Sunday, February 18, 2018

HANDLING DRAMA

Sunday, February 18, 2018

HANDLING DRAMA




Drama is something that will follow you no matter what you do. Growing up I always liked to keep myself busy, if it was work or school or just even being a housewife. I have seen the statements and the remarks that just being a housewife is nothing more than taking care of the house and sitting around. I chose to never bother, I enjoyed travelling the world with my family and spending time with my kid and taking in the many gorgeous moments of motherhood. It gave me immense happiness and I think its one of the best decisions to take a break to enjoy the moments of life. These are the moments that will never come back no matter how much money you make, some joys cant be measured. 





1) Ignore the noise

There will always be people who have a lot of opinions. Its normal and accepted. I would be surprised if we didn't do anything that is better than you. Dont let it overpower you, that is what those noises want. They are just that noises, not real words or meaning. Be very selective whos words you want to listen to. They should be people you trust and who are there for you always. They need to be in your confidence and their opinions should matter. Dont let anything else take over. Always believe in what you are doing and dont get derailed by the gossip or bad talk. The more I have ignored that drama and noise the more focus and time you have for your purpose in life. We end up spending so much time worrying what people have to say. If we just redirected all that energy for our betterment we would be able to achieve so much more. 



2) Ground rules 

If the person continues to try to annoy you, set clear ground rules that gives the msg the person wont repeat it with you. Discontinue talking, or attending events with them and essentially avoiding them. Make sure that you are setting boundaries around who you want to trust and listen to as well. Respect yourself enough to make sure that if someone breaks your trust or decides to gossip about you and insult you then you step away from that person and put them in their place. There is nothing worse than the putting up with someone who will sabotage your peace of mind. 




                                                                          3) Distract yourself 

Put on some music, read your fav book, laugh with friends, see your favorite shows..anything that gets you away from the drama. Keeping yourself busy with work, routine and getting a hobby is a fun way to drive the drama away. I always try to keep a routine during the week so that I am doing busy things.  Try to read positive books or listen to motivation speakers to better myself. The more time I see people spending on drama and gossip I just dont understand why would they want to drain their energy.



                                                                                       4) Be Polite 
You dont need to cause a scene to get away from person. The classier approach always works best for your peace of mind. Just be courteous if you find yourself in a situation again with the drama situation and politely move away. There is always a choice in how we deal with situations. When there are tough spots you feel stuck in, then there's confrontation for you, just being polite and respectful is most important. Otherwise if you react and fight, you are affecting your own peace of mind. 



           5) Evaluate yourself
At the end of the day, it will always seem that we have the right to express and respond on people views but the more we spend time worrying about it and wasting our time it will result in more drama. The most important thing in life has been to be able to appreciate people views who you really think can help you improve. So sometimes things happen and you might face negative situations to feel better about yourself but then at the end of the day it still has to  make you happy. Look at helping people and do it with dignity for yourself too! 

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Sunday, November 19, 2017

LADY DIOR - SELECTING A DESIGNER BAG

Sunday, November 19, 2017

LADY DIOR - SELECTING A DESIGNER BAG




Designer bags. I know what you are thinking. At first, when I started looking at designer bags in college I would wonder how would people spend that kinda money. Seemed so pointless. Of course in college, you are more focused on your pocket money for your shopping and clothes. So I didnt even consider buying high end designer bags. There were times in college I would be so tempted to buy them and I started with Guess/Coach bags...but I guess my favorite things and looks moved on up. My interest for the high end designer started in Europe. LV bags were everywhere, and so were burberry and Gucci...Slowly I gained more interest when my hubby got me my first LV bag and I still remember I knew this would be my last.




I guess in investing in bags, you need to keep budget in mind and what you would want to own. Lady Dior was definitely my dream bag. Way to expensive though. So I decided to plan my way towards owning it. When I learned it also was named after Princess Diana that just made the choice easier and I had to get it. I always look forward to my European holidays. So when we got a chance to go again in October this year, it got me very excited. Even though it was a work trip as well, we did manage to have the last weekend we were there to explore places besides Sweden. It got me really wanting to get one of the designer bags I fell in love with in Paris. All this time I have avoided it because it just didnt fit my budget and I felt ' How can I put in that kinda money?' but since its been over 5 years since I did get another designer bag I decided to get a gorgeous Lady Dior. I know my pictures backdrop have my sons bikes and I just felt it just adds a little charm to my blog. 

SPEND ON A BUDGET 

So recently I just realised that that I was spending TOO much on shopping. Partly was the fact that I was travelling a lot and thought I make it an excuse or the reason for shopping last year, it was a disaster. I did buy stuff I realised which I might or might not use. I wanted to make sure this time is that I buy what I really need. Indulging in designer or few expensive pieces are still a good thing. But not wanting to over indulge I decided a few ground rules.I know this sounds like the easiest thing but tough to do. So I started tracking and keeping a monthly budget. A REALISTIC budget is the toughest thing to achieve. First, look at your essential expenses - day to day expenses. Then besides that make sure  you have your savings set aside. The worst situation would be you going into debt from shopping. Remember that movie Shopoholic. They made it for people who don't have any self control.


YOUR BEAUTIFUL

Just remember. $50 on makeup you spend or $500, doesnt really decide how beautiful you are. Some people look the most beautiful, but have bad personalities. So you can watch that really the most annoying people at times, look really beautiful. So focus on who you are more than what you wear. I usually spend 10-15 mins max on makeup time. Why? I dont wanna get obsessed with how I look. My father always said that if you keep looking at yourself in the mirror all the time, it starts to become all you wonder about. Everything on your face becomes your focus. Dont let it take over who you are.


LIMIT YOUR ACCESS

This is easier said than done. With todays technology and so many sites and offers everywhere you cant help but look and shop as well. So when it comes to buying clothes or makeup this is what I do. I will keep a certain budget every quarter and then shop accordingly. This is a great way to spend once in a while and get things you really want. I realised I was buying too many types of makeup I was just not using. What a waste! Why? I was watching youtube and getting obsessed with wanting to follow bloggers and get their views on how the products are and how they look. The most important thing to keep in mind was that I looked at their drawers and cases of makeup and thought if I didnt have 50 shades of lipsticks and glosses god forbid, I would apparently run out of it. Totally wrong. I ended up with too much stuff. So now I just dont bother with shopping. When my lipstick is reaching the end I look to pick up a new one. Though I do have collections they are lesser than before. 


DESIGNER OBSESSION


This is probably the most controversial point for me. Firstly, I do enjoy high end designer items. I am not gonna lie. I will occasionally get something really expensive and then it would get really satisfying for sometime. But if you spend too much money on the hem it will never be enough. So balance it out. You dont need to wear a Louis vuitton bag, Jimmy Choo heels, with a gucci dress and burberry jacket with some cartier jewelry to get the great look or make you feel important. Frankly, I find that really ridiculous. Its always good to mix the high end with your street style fashion. The H&M, Zara's, are just as good. Mix it up with a high end bag or accessory. As long as it makes you feel good and you are not spending more than you should. You should be good to go..




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Wednesday, November 15, 2017

GETTING A FRESH START

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

GETTING A FRESH START




Every year I try to start with a new resolution. Now I know this sounds pretty lame and redundant but still new goals mean new motivation. If you don’t take the time to work on your issues and what you want to achieve in your life you will find yourself looking through your albums or your years going by without much difference. Does it help to get focus? Yes. Do new goals help you get some direction. Yes. Okay, now I feel its getting a little annoying so lets just jump right to some of the things I have added to plans for the upcoming new year.


RESTART THE MIND

I know this sounds like a very strange headline right. What is restart the mind mean? Well my definition was the ability to get my thoughts and refocus them. I attended a Franklin Covey conference and it really got me back to my training days. Some of the best things about training I feel is that it reconnects you and makes you focus on what matters rather than anything else. I would say that the most important things that we look at is the ability to work with the people and learn from them. So it has got me thinking to reprioritize some of my focus points and make sure that I have got what I need to achieve rather than worry about things that I have focused on for too long.


YOGA

This is one of the best things I have actually had in my life. Meditation especially was amazing and in Sweden it was one of my favorite things. It has gotten busy but there are no excuses. Atleast take out 20 mins in a day to do a routine and I will keep a tracker and reminder daily to ensure that I do my Yoga until it becomes a habit like it used to be. The most important thing I feel with yoga is a sense of purpose and relaxation. That is something I definitely miss a lot of now. I am very hyperactive person. People see my calm exterior and think I dont get frazzled. Its actually yoga and my soul books that have given me the center and focus in life. 



 DETOX DIET

This upcoming year will have a lot more fruits and veggies in my diet. I am a totally big eater, which most people don’t believe. (Unless you have seen me binge on my favorite food and you probably will have your mouth drop in shock) So anyways, back to this. I have started green juices. Something of a habit from Sweden but besides that I have added carrot juice and salad everyday. Indians don’t really believe in salad, it looks like grass or something that we shouldn’t be eating. So basically I went ahead and started this. But i need to be more consistent. The key to good health and looking and feeling good is definitely the diet and I want to ensure I am getting enough nutrients in my system to be able to make it look good as well. I don’t want too much of stuff which is what I have been eating very unhealthy. Esp with my travel I tend to eat a lot outside and not necessary have like a balance diet which isn’t good. So a routine is a must.


HOLIDAY RETREAT

It is so important to get away. Going on a vacation—or more specifically, a retreat—can help you to leave the mayhem of the day-to-day behind so that you can reconnect with yourself and what really matters to you. As much as I can, I try to make sure to take a break every few months. A few days at a retreat can help you to clear your mind and gain new perspective. With my crazy lifestyle and work and managing all that we do, I make it a point that as a family we get away. It could be a short holiday, or just the weekend in a nearby place or catch up with people and get on the road. Whatever that might be, just disconnect. If you prefer camping then go ahead, fishing...whatever calms you. A holiday might literally also just be taking a day off and going to the SPA! Whatever your definition of a holiday might be make sure that you take time to do that!




ORGANIZE MY CLOSET
Recently, I did a lot of shopping in Europe and I came back t a chaos filled closet. Totally madness. No space because there is no organization in my closet. There is just too much stuff. So though I have donated stuff but I wanna make sure that I prioritize my wardrobe. Something that I haven’t worn beyond 2 years at least is out or  re-evaluate. Shopping is the fun part, then trying to make sure your closet is in order is the other fun part! Lol. So I try to keep one day on my weekend just to make sure all is in order. Else on a monday morning we all are frantically looking for stuff around our house and going insane finding things and trying to figure where it all is. So a organized closet also makes you feel clear in your head. That is what I have always seen classically work for me. When my closet is organized it relaxes me so much and I find myself so peaceful and rested. 


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Monday, November 6, 2017

TRAVEL TIPS

Monday, November 6, 2017

TRAVEL TIPS



I had the opportunity recently to spend sometime in my favorite places in Europe. Sweden. One of the most beautiful places with equally lovely people. On our way back we decided to see some other cities as well. So with all the travel I thought it would be a great way to share my travel tips. The most challenging part of travelling is when you shop and then try to fit everything in 3 suitcases. We had some 10 bags of shopping and how to now fit everything in those suitcases. So expecting my shopping these are few things I did. 


PACK LIGHT

Make sure that you have the most essential clothes that you would need for that holiday. So lets say its 10 days, would you need how many shirts or pants/dresses overall? What can you do without. Look at your wardrobe and identify what exactly you want to carry with you. I have often times made the mistake of packing too much. Now when I go to holidays I know I will anyway shop, so what is the most probable things I will buy and can wear there rather than carry it. Think it through. Make your packing as basic as you can and you anyway have your shopping bags to help with the rest! I had the worst experience of packing 2 huge suitcases for a 3 month overseas trip assuming just that I wont ever shop or that I would need clothes daily. My mum convinced me I needed my 7 pairs of sweaters and every shirt I could imagine and once I landed I realised what a nightmare it was to be pushing around these huge suitcases. My biggest lesson - NEVER carry heavy. u will most probably end up shopping stuff and if you even forget stuff you can always pick up something else! 
HEAVY ITEMS AT THE BOTTOM

I never realized how much heavy items don’t really help keep things as basic as we want. The toys, shoes, accessories, bags all should be ideally placed at the bottom of the suitcase, this way you can add all the light stuff between them and make more room accordingly. If you put clothes first and then the heavy items, it will cause more work for you trust me. This was one lesson my dad taught me. I had a habit of putting my shoes on the top and I never would get why it would not fit. Then he made me realise that the shoes should be at the bottom so that clothes can easily be adjusted but not the heavy ones. They would just create the issues on the top and give you a huge trouble trying to fix the zip and close the suitcase. 

FILL UP SPACES


There are various pockets in the suitcase especially between the various areas of it. Socks, light tops, shirts, anything which can be adjusted should be used to fill up these spaces. I use all the corner space coz its been always the biggest issue. So make sure to see the most of the places are like the same way. The space between your shoe and your purse. Just sneak a shirt in there, it can easily fit. Socks, tights, anything which can be adjusted can be added to these specific places too! Great space saver. 



  ESSENTIALS CHECKLIST

I always have my checklist for the travel. The clothes, toiletries, kids list, my list etc..this is a great way to not worry about just making sure that the list is taken care of. I always try to pack a day before or earlier as much as possible. After that I am relaxed and don’t need to worry about what I forgot. Eg: my straightener is one thing I always forget and I ended up with a nightmare situation of having no time while on holiday to go to parlor and my hair was such a mess!...more than usual ­čśŐ 



ACCESSORIES WHICH MATTER

Don’t take too many accessories in your suitcase. Nightmare. So carry the big bag, small bag for travel and medium size. Shoes as well try and get a little limited ones too, what kind of place are you travelling. Is it gonna be hot or cold? Beaches? I love carrying my sandals, one pair of heels or 2 depending, and match your outfits to your shoes, really important. Always make sure to see if you can have a more important ones like watches, belts, etc. 

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Saturday, October 28, 2017

KNOWLEDGE VS TALENT

Saturday, October 28, 2017

KNOWLEDGE VS TALENT


The fundamental learning that we go through in life is what we see and learn from others. Not only in classrooms but with every aspect of what we learn from our day to day experiences to meeting people. Learning from mistakes, from other stories that we hear. Education can be found in all these ways. Still I think today we place so much emphasize only on education in the classroom. I fundamentally realized this when I took a break from working. I was always busy and it made me combine my time and prioritize things. Always know that what you fundamentally learn is the most important thing and basis for what you become and who you choose to be. 

JUDGEMENT

Biggest mistake I have done is value people more because they studied in the ‘better’ colleges or got ‘better’ grades or where more ‘accomplished’ because of those things. Would it still matter if you were the most successful person you knew, and at the sametime the most crappiest? Nope. I learnt that I respected someone who no education but was kinder, nicer and was better to know. Most success stories if you see today are not people from reputed colleges but who don’t even have degrees. They had something more, the understanding of prioritizing and hard work and focus on the right things. They had the skills already in them that they didn’t need a degree to feel more accomplished. Don’t get me wrong. I respect anyone whos studied and done well and I fundamentally believe that it is very important to study. It gives you the tools and learnings. But all my point is that if you have all the education in the world and are the most annoying/arrogant or rude person to know. That really is a waste of a person. That wont get you far, it probably will take you ahead because of your knowledge but not to the greatest heights of success and joy because of who you become.




BE LIKABLE

 One of my biggest learnings about success. The higher your grow or the promotions or you start a company and you become the CEO that al is great. But the most impressive and amazing leaders that I met or worked with are likeable. It is something what people look for. A manager might not have a lotta experience but if you are likable you have a more edge over the person who have many more number of years of experience. Be likeable. Genuinely care about people. Go a little out of your way to see if you can assist someone. Doesn’t mean you need to brag or like them or do things you don’t want to do. But do a little extra and it will be something people like about you. Leaders who think about others are the real leaders. The ones who want to get ahead on expense of someone else are just disliked and people start observing and it goes against them. It becomes about what school you attended, what university you did your degree from. Did you achieve the highest grades, were you an A player in school. The list is endless. I am guilty of this as well. When I was in college I wanted ot join the best schools in the city and I did. Everyone would say, its great to join the top schools and I achieved a lot of awards and recognition. But I always felt incomplete. I felt that I should have got more marks in math or in economics. I should have studied harder. Nothing was good enough. I got good grades. Everyone was happy with me and I went through bad grades too. Its when I got good grades that I actually started putting more pressure on myself. 

 SELF-REFLECT

So you got your education you are really good at what you do. But training is fundamentally very critical. It is like polishing your silverware. I know bad analogy. But I mean its actually quite refreshing to attend trainings to see what you can learn that can help your process and develop what you are and who you are. Its very important to apply your learnings and attend to get more creative. It has taught me to be open to development and how to improve your process. Its my favorite field in the world to learn and to grow and teach and evaluate yourself. A true leader has the ability to self reflect. That is what training is all about. That is why I say education is not just in the classroom. It not about the Harvards or the IIM’s of India and its definitely not the grades. Education is PART of your learning which comes with classroom. It what you do with your education that really makes you a true success story when you get into the real world to work and build a career. Spirituality taught me more about education than anything else will. These are some of the lessons that I learnt early and hopefully will help you in some way that it helped me grow.

GUIDANCE

Often times the most hard and fast rule is to give feedback. The most important thing though is how you give it. Respect and genuinely caring about the person helps you give better feedback. Now, I mentioned this in my earlier points but I am repeating this as I think the struggle we have today is so much focus on meeting the numbers, we forget people. You forget people and that’s when the cracks start. You cant find people. People are the reason you get things done. They are the people who will help you. So don’t worry about always trying to be right. Guidance is what people need, not feedback. Don’t get hung up on trying to fix everything. Be the mentor be the coach be someone that people look forward to giving them guidance not just forcing it.


 THE RIGHT WAY

Now you might wonder. Well there are people who get ahead without doing any of these things. I agree. I have seen it. They back stab, they play games, they steal ideas, they think they will get ahead coz they are ‘smarter’ as a result of doing all these things. Some of them do get ahead. But people catch on. People know when someone goes behind them and does things. Eventually. For those who play the game and no one comes to know, great for them. Great manipulators. It’s a choice actually. If you want to be a follower and do the wrong things, its fine. The sad part is most of them don’t think they are doing anything wrong. So that is the real problem. The reason is simple. Its harder to do the right things. You need to wait, you need to work hard, you need to win people over, you need to be able to get more information. These are the right things to do. But they are the longer route, they take more time. The wrong ways take less time, someone elses ideas, someone elses ways, someone elses promotion etc…its shorter and easier. So its your choice. Your conscious will be happier if you achieve them on your own. When I bought my first car with my salary and my own loan without taking anything from my parents, that feeling was so amazing. I felt like I had conquered the world. Could my dad have just bought me a car? Sure. I wouldn’t feel the same exhilaration that I did when I bought it on my own. That is what I am talking about. Be self made. But that is the tougher path. And its your choice.



                                                        CONCLUSION

I just wanted to share few pointers to kinda give you guys a feeler f what you might be going through at work or even your personal life where people love to criticize, or tell you what to do. Those are not bad things, only if its suffocating or something your not looking for so just be aware that you don’t need to always put up with people or listen to people and believe what you feel is the most important for you. Guidance is good, even important. Not if someone forcing it to you. The biggest lessons I have learnt is to stop wondering and worrying about people. I have lesser people today in my life and more happiness as a result of it. We met some friends in Sweden and one of them said something that really stuck with me. They said they have a lot of people they know, but very few friends. Too many friends is not a good thing. I finally understand that. I always had people in my life and learnt from them and I am ever grateful..but with time, you start maturing and you want to be surrounded by people that matter. I did just that. Filtered out a lot, and find myself better off. More focused, less waste of energy, less talking, less botheration and more determined. So my advice would be just that. Don’t listen to anything I have written unless you believe in it. Lol!
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Saturday, September 9, 2017

DISCONNECT SOMETIMES

Saturday, September 9, 2017

DISCONNECT SOMETIMES

Social media is probably the most powerful tool of communication. With just a press of a button you can reach out to someone living in a different continent. I was so excited about all the apps and the new devices that has come across us. Whatsapp, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, youtube…and the list goes on. Trust me I love all these apps. Great way to share your life and be able to speak to people and share your life. I know its important to connect with but I am probably the most disconnected person in the world. I have always been very selective of people who are in my inner circle. Possibily because I have experienced a lot of drama with people and its important now for me to prioritize my time with people I enjoy and who are mature and fun to be around. Probably also because I have seen its not worth having so many friends and its actually in my past been exhausting. So this route seems to make me more relaxed and I am happier. 

OVER SHARING

Well, unfortunately for me I guess the media became OVER sharing. I started realizing I was posting pics about my walks, to my food, to just looking outside the window. Every moment had to be captured as I had to update it and put it into all my various social media feeds including my blog. If I didn’t take pics, how would I share what happened in the last week. All kinds of weird thoughts started over the last year. Would it seem I am not posting regularly, that I don’t care…the thoughts turned WORSE. I started worrying maybe it would seem I just don’t have a life.


HOBBY


Everyone was posting pics it was NORMAL. I was not doing it and I almost started to STOP living in the effort to Share. And then suddenly one day I realized what is happening?? I went back to the time I started the blog. Just as a hobby. The hobby turned into great opportunities to work with such great brands and love the sponsors and they were really supportive and send me great products and dresses. It was just effortless. Suddenly, I realized what is happening. I just didn’t want to do anything but just about keep updating my life and posting all the information.I stopped enjoying blogging, but I started hating the process. It was becoming a huge process.


MORE WORK

Gradually I realized, it was not fun anymore. It was WORK. I already had work, and this was supposed to be a hobby. So I disconnected. Just decided to reduce all my usage of the social media outlets. I focused on them being able to do things and wanting to get things done my way. Relaxed. So I stopped using more than 50% of all apps related to social media. I felt better. It wasn’t fun anymore. I just use one of them and stopped most of the others, and I realized that I had more time for using my time for my projects.


SPONSORS BREAK

The moment I realized that something isn’t working and especially isn’t fun, it was a waste of time. Its not worth spending your time day and night. I took a break from sponsors and promotions. Its one of the best decisions for me now. I went back to what I like, blogging. Just writing about what I like and my experiences. Only in the recent weeks I have started to observe I am going back to feeling that I am enjoying it again. This is what I started to do. More choosy, not accepting all the sponsors and becoming a brand blog. So I have enjoyed the time of focusing of writing and sharing my travel stories.



SWITCH OFF

So sometimes, I recommend don’t listen to people. Switch off your mind. Don’t get caught up in views, opinions and gossip. Do things for you and that is most important thing in life. The more time you spend pleasing others or doing things for others, the more you will become miserable. I enjoyed blogging, not getting sucked into the need to please and do things FOR blogging. Just the simple thoughts and time that I took to express my views. So anything you take up in life, you need to make sure that you enjoy it more. 

                                      Put the camera down.
Smile more, enjoy the moment
More family time and play time.
No  make up, dress up, looking picture perfect for that shot

No more posing, outfit of the day, any kind of look day, just natural pics going forward. 
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Sunday, August 27, 2017

BE YOUR BIGGEST CRITIC

Sunday, August 27, 2017

BE YOUR BIGGEST CRITIC


As we get older, things in our mind tend to move to become more straightforward and direct. The toughest part of accepting change is adjusting to it. Most of the time it sounds easier than usual but I have come to find that the hardest part is trying to accept faults in one self. We find it so easy to criticize others and analyse, gossip and find fault in other people. How many times have you actually said, 'Yes I need to improve my way of being and how I react to people'. Self analysis is probably the biggest and most important lesson we all need to learn to start doing. Even as I say to try and be your biggest critic, it still doesn't mean that you need to keep analyzing yourself all the time. Its helpful to keep few things in mind. 


DON'T BE TOO HARD ON YOURSELF


Well, I have been on both sides of this. I also have seen friends who tend to beat themselves up for things. 'Oh, maybe I should have made more effort for him and he wouldn't have left' or 'I didn't study hard enough and its always me who fails and it has to be me'. Being your biggest critic doesn't mean beating yourself up so badly, that you start hating everything about yourself. It is a balance, once you have identified the problem, DO SOMETHING about it. Not just analysis and then push so hard at yourself you get demotivated. Realize and find a solution. 

SOLUTION MODE

I am sure you have heard the saying, 'Out of the problem, and into the solution' So try to do just that. Over the years, I started making the 5 min rule for my issues. This meant, that I would probably discuss any issue or express it for 5 mins which gave me opportunity to identify it. Then moved to the solution  mode. What can I do to make sure this becomes easier process. This strategy i applied in my career mostly, so i started using the same idea for my personal life as well. Dont keep dwelling on the same issue repeatedly, get into solution mode. If you dont find a solution, google it, ask friends, go to someone you trust who can give you good advice.

NO ONE'S PERFECT

This is probably the toughest thing for us to understand. You are NOT perfect. We tend to look at our lives and compare it with others. I remember when I got active on social media, I would see all these fashion bloggers and wonder, it would be so cool to be travelling the way they do and see the world and attend all the fashion shows. Then i tried to understand that it literally is their job. We get caught up in the perfection of it all, but the constant travel, jet lag, being pretty all the time, trying to look content and happy and constantly being on schedules on mad travel and crazy attending arent things we all can do. I am sure it sounds fun, but the effort and work isnt easy. Then I realized its a lot of work and isnt easy to do. Its more peaceful t o appreciate what you have and work hard instead of constantly comparing your life to othes when you dont know their struggle.


BE HONEST


Its of no help to you or others if you don't admit if you have any issues. I have seen people including myself who refuse to analyse they have any issue and that the reason for all their problems is because of someone else rather than them. I always thought that I was hilarious. Seriously, that I can make anyone laugh and I'm great company. However, until the day that when my good friend said, "You are really funny and its great to have you around. But honestly, sometimes you can be insensitive and almost seems like you are making fun of us, rather than us having fun" I stopped that day the way I was communicating and then realized that the information I provided was to make others happy. But never considered that my humor might not be coming across the right way. It made me realise that I need to evaluate myself. 



GO FOR IT 


Often times, self criticism can limit us. It can become so limiting that we might even lose chances or opportunities to be able to live a higher and better lifestyle. 

I dont have the skills to get that job.
I dont think I can be that strong to push myself to get that done.
I dont have the ability to convince him/her to make effort for me.
I dont think its my time to achieve this.


So many donts. Bottom line. Finding out what you need to work on is great. But give it a shot anyways. Realize what you need to work on make effort and then GO FOR IT. If you dont even try, you limit yourself. Test your limits, dont worry about people what they will say. Just do it. Go go for it now! :) 



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