Saturday, August 4, 2018

LOYALTY

Saturday, August 4, 2018

LOYALTY




I think if there is one thing that I have learned about life is that we need to be able to look at the bigger picture. Most of the time I feel that things work better with the people who surround you. These are just my humble view points and doesnt in any account mean that it will work for everyone. We are constantly generating energies and its your choice what you want to do with these energies in your life. You have the choice to generate the right kind of energies and it isn't always easy. One of the most important things with time I have learnt is Loyalty. Making sure that there is loyalty between people that matter. You can look at how they have been in your life and if they have the right energies. I offlate have seen cutting off from negative people which has made it easier to manage my life. So what are the things to keep in mind to avoid being unloyal and here are some of my thoughts.

1) COMMUNICATION  

I cant stress on this enough. I know it sounds cliche but the most important thing is even if its work or even family and friends but there is always going to be the an essential part of any relationship. Being in touch, saying positive things and a relationship that is easy and works well. The biggest problem I have seen people have is there is either too much communication or too less. Not responding to calls or conversations or not keeping commitments to meet up or help your friend and not maintain those relationships. I have personally experienced friends come and go, mainly because I traveled so much from a very young age and its been those constant moves that has taught me to adjust to changes. In 8th grade I finally felt that I moved and settled down that I actually started to make great friends. I feel lucky that even now they are some of my best friends. Make it a habit to talk often and stay in touch, show that you care and ask your loved ones how they are doing from time to time. This doesnt mean you need to talk to every single person, just those few close people who matter the world to you and make you feel special. Dont lose out on those friendships they are some of the best and rarest and you should enjoy them. 








2) RESPECT 

Being flexible in relations is very important but there also needs to be boundaries that are set. I have tried to maintain is to respect the privacy and secrets of what has been shared with you. If you tend to share stories about your friends or family to others, thinking that it wouldn't go back to the person who shared it with you. However, it happened to me a couple of times where I have been guilty of sharing some stuff which I should have. And the one thing I did that when one of the situations got so out of hand that a silly joke I made went completely out of control and it did end up hurting some people. It did teach me a lesson though and I never decided to comment or joke about anyone after that. It took me a serious situation like that to make me realize how much I can affect relationships. I am grateful that I was able to learn it. 

3) GOSSIP 

One of the biggest problems in breaking loyalty is definitely gossip. In the last few years, the amount of drama that gossip generates has made me realize to completely get away from discussing people. The people who I know tend to gossip I literally have kept a rule now that I will not respond or comment on anything to do with other people's lives because that can happen to me. Would we be okay if people were talking bad about us behind our backs? Would it be okay to know how negative the comments were? Not just strangers but people we care about. I have really learnt to reduce this and have seen a huge difference in my life. The ability to prioritize what matters is the most important.  







4) ARGUMENTS 

Most common issue when relationships today is the lack of respect and leads to causing huge fights and breaks in relations. Constant arguments create not only negative energy and changes the atmosphere. It also spoils the relation and can break trust that you have build with the people you care about as well in your life. Disconnect from the situation or not respond to the negativity as you might regret whatever you might end up saying in the heat of the moment.Take a breath.
Disconnect and when things cool down talk about it. 
Most often it helps resolve the situation and we feel in a better state of mind.  

5) BLAMING OTHERS 

Owning up to a mistake goes a long way in building a bond and finding loyalty in any relationship. I often times try my best to ensure that I avoid the blame game. Its an easy trap to just hold someone else responsible for actions that cause problems. If you were involved in the issue, chances are you have a part to play so blaming the other person would just not be right. The more you own up and take account of the situation the more mature you come across. Always good to have the right attitude because most of the times that is whats missing in any relationship. 






The pictures are taken when I attended the Great Place to Work Conference in Chicago. It was amazing! Sorry for the clarity not being the best as I had my cell phone for the events a lot of the times. 
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Friday, July 13, 2018

RIGHT ENERGIES

Friday, July 13, 2018

RIGHT ENERGIES


Paris has always been one of my dream destinations because of the Eiffel Tower. I always wanted to go there ever since my dad told me stories of his travels there and how beautiful it is. One of the most romantic cities after all. So finally arriving here was just a dream come true and I enjoyed my time with my family as well :) Its always good to get away sometimes and get your energy in place. I have seen how much time it takes for everyone to take time off and just get exhausted it really isnt worth the headache. Make sure you take time for yourself and are enjoying small joys in life. Another aspect I wanted to discuss about is how we tend to look at our lives and some things I have learnt about energies. It is so important how we spend our energies and how we use it. 

a) Like attracts like 

The law of physics really. If you guys haven't read the Secret book by Rhonda Byres you are really missing out. I agree at first its a bit deep and might not be your regular go to book but atleast this way you have an opportunity to explore the options.
 Like attracts like. Meaning, what you think about constantly or believe a lot, you will attract that. I have been trying hard to practice this when it gets me into a habit to keep critizing or just looking at the negative of a situation. Mainly because its comfortable to speak negative, talk bad, blame others. These are wrong we know it, but at the sametime it makes us feel good about ourselves. So its more effort to say good, do good and restrain from judging or forming opinions. We are also taught that having an opinion is good thing. Well not always. I prefer to give opinion if someone asks me. Otherwise trying to not have an opinion is a struggle I am sure most people have the way I do.

b) If you focus your energy on something you will attract that 

Energy isnt someting you can see, but feel. One of my biggest believes in my life is that we are surrounded by energy. We generate energy as well, so be careful when you choose your thoughts and energy. People who tend to be more negative you will see their health gets affected and they will tend to talk negative and always be criticizing. I have seen that most people have the attitude of thinking of themselves. The positive energy doesnt get created that way. The more you wish well for others and try to help others, the more positive energy you generate and improve the situation for yourself. The more you decide to not help or be to yourself, you are not building the framework of improving and having good energy. You are attracting more negative energy as well. I have seen the situation change and become more positive for me when I have reached out to people. Even when I have donated in the past, i have seen money come back to me. The energy just works like that and I love it that way.




c) Tides do change 

There have been moments I have felt stuck. In my personal life and professional. Its very normal. You might be doing what you love and yet sometimes feel that you are not getting to a higher place or doing better. So keeping yourself motivated is key. I have personally had to work on this because I want to try to keep achieving a lot of things. Taking a decision to take break from my work career was the biggest, but it has also resulted in me being really found that change a huge problem. I always was on the go but after a certain point, I would try my best to be able to work and get things done. So I shifted my mindset. Always try and remember things dont always remain the same. It is moving and changing. That boss who annoys you, your friend who just doesnt listen to you or care. Most of the people either move on to another role place, your boss might disappear or your friend might change too. So dont let that bring you down. The more you let the external affect it will...and the tide will change. So in the meanwhile, my motto has been 'Suck it up' lol...not the best quote but just remember that those moments when y ou feel the lowest, there will be a better day soon and be hopeful and focus for it. In the meanwhile, keep doing what you need to do to make things happen for you.

d) Thankful

 - I know this is something I have done. When I have had moments of gratitude and for things that I have in my life. That is a good way to be thankful. I have also looked at getting like a bulletin board (you get it dirt cheap on any online websites) and put pictures up things you are thankful for and also things that you want to achieve.







e) You are only as good as your words

I have always believed what my dad taught me, which was its important to be able to express your self and how you do that is very imp. The words we use is probably most critical. I remember having an issue when people had an opinion about me. It was about me or my weight or my personal life....how they had an opinion about all of that and I felt that was just ridiculous. However, I never responded or tell what I felt. Looking back I feel I wish I could have spoken. That I had said that they dont have a right to share their view or I had not asked their opinion. Politely of course. Sometimes silence is taken as weakness and other times its the best. I have always regretted if I did react. So if I did, I tried my best to correct it. That is very essential, and not repeat it. Actions speak louder than words, but I feel words are probably more harmful than actions.

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Sunday, February 18, 2018

HANDLING DRAMA

Sunday, February 18, 2018

HANDLING DRAMA




Drama is something that will follow you no matter what you do. Growing up I always liked to keep myself busy, if it was work or school or just even being a housewife. I have seen the statements and the remarks that just being a housewife is nothing more than taking care of the house and sitting around. I chose to never bother, I enjoyed travelling the world with my family and spending time with my kid and taking in the many gorgeous moments of motherhood. It gave me immense happiness and I think its one of the best decisions to take a break to enjoy the moments of life. These are the moments that will never come back no matter how much money you make, some joys cant be measured. 




1) Ignore the noise

There will always be people who have a lot of opinions. Its normal and accepted. I would be surprised if we didn't do anything that is better than you. Dont let it overpower you, that is what those noises want. They are just that noises, not real words or meaning. Be very selective whos words you want to listen to. They should be people you trust and who are there for you always. They need to be in your confidence and their opinions should matter. Dont let anything else take over. Always believe in what you are doing and dont get derailed by the gossip or bad talk. The more I have ignored that drama and noise the more focus and time you have for your purpose in life. We end up spending so much time worrying what people have to say. If we just redirected all that energy for our betterment we would be able to achieve so much more. 



2) Ground rules 

If the person continues to try to annoy you, set clear ground rules that gives the msg the person wont repeat it with you. Discontinue talking, or attending events with them and essentially avoiding them. Make sure that you are setting boundaries around who you want to trust and listen to as well. Respect yourself enough to make sure that if someone breaks your trust or decides to gossip about you and insult you then you step away from that person and put them in their place. There is nothing worse than the putting up with someone who will sabotage your peace of mind. 




                                                                          3) Distract yourself 

Put on some music, read your fav book, laugh with friends, see your favorite shows..anything that gets you away from the drama. Keeping yourself busy with work, routine and getting a hobby is a fun way to drive the drama away. I always try to keep a routine during the week so that I am doing busy things.  Try to read positive books or listen to motivation speakers to better myself. The more time I see people spending on drama and gossip I just dont understand why would they want to drain their energy.



                                                                                       4) Be Polite 
You dont need to cause a scene to get away from person. The classier approach always works best for your peace of mind. Just be courteous if you find yourself in a situation again with the drama situation and politely move away. There is always a choice in how we deal with situations. When there are tough spots you feel stuck in, then there's confrontation for you, just being polite and respectful is most important. Otherwise if you react and fight, you are affecting your own peace of mind. 




           5) Evaluate yourself
At the end of the day, it will always seem that we have the right to express and respond on people views but the more we spend time worrying about it and wasting our time it will result in more drama. The most important thing in life has been to be able to appreciate people views who you really think can help you improve. So sometimes things happen and you might face negative situations to feel better about yourself but then at the end of the day it still has to  make you happy. Look at helping people and do it with dignity for yourself too! 

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Sunday, November 19, 2017

LADY DIOR - SELECTING A DESIGNER BAG

Sunday, November 19, 2017

LADY DIOR - SELECTING A DESIGNER BAG




Designer bags. I know what you are thinking. At first, when I started looking at designer bags in college I would wonder how would people spend that kinda money. Seemed so pointless. Of course in college, you are more focused on your pocket money for your shopping and clothes. So I didnt even consider buying high end designer bags. There were times in college I would be so tempted to buy them and I started with Guess/Coach bags...but I guess my favorite things and looks moved on up. My interest for the high end designer started in Europe. LV bags were everywhere, and so were burberry and Gucci...Slowly I gained more interest when my hubby got me my first LV bag and I still remember I knew this would be my last.




I guess in investing in bags, you need to keep budget in mind and what you would want to own. Lady Dior was definitely my dream bag. Way to expensive though. So I decided to plan my way towards owning it. When I learned it also was named after Princess Diana that just made the choice easier and I had to get it. I always look forward to my European holidays. So when we got a chance to go again in October this year, it got me very excited. Even though it was a work trip as well, we did manage to have the last weekend we were there to explore places besides Sweden. It got me really wanting to get one of the designer bags I fell in love with in Paris. All this time I have avoided it because it just didnt fit my budget and I felt ' How can I put in that kinda money?' but since its been over 5 years since I did get another designer bag I decided to get a gorgeous Lady Dior. I know my pictures backdrop have my sons bikes and I just felt it just adds a little charm to my blog. 

SPEND ON A BUDGET 

So recently I just realised that that I was spending TOO much on shopping. Partly was the fact that I was travelling a lot and thought I make it an excuse or the reason for shopping last year, it was a disaster. I did buy stuff I realised which I might or might not use. I wanted to make sure this time is that I buy what I really need. Indulging in designer or few expensive pieces are still a good thing. But not wanting to over indulge I decided a few ground rules.I know this sounds like the easiest thing but tough to do. So I started tracking and keeping a monthly budget. A REALISTIC budget is the toughest thing to achieve. First, look at your essential expenses - day to day expenses. Then besides that make sure  you have your savings set aside. The worst situation would be you going into debt from shopping. Remember that movie Shopoholic. They made it for people who don't have any self control.


YOUR BEAUTIFUL

Just remember. $50 on makeup you spend or $500, doesnt really decide how beautiful you are. Some people look the most beautiful, but have bad personalities. So you can watch that really the most annoying people at times, look really beautiful. So focus on who you are more than what you wear. I usually spend 10-15 mins max on makeup time. Why? I dont wanna get obsessed with how I look. My father always said that if you keep looking at yourself in the mirror all the time, it starts to become all you wonder about. Everything on your face becomes your focus. Dont let it take over who you are.


LIMIT YOUR ACCESS

This is easier said than done. With todays technology and so many sites and offers everywhere you cant help but look and shop as well. So when it comes to buying clothes or makeup this is what I do. I will keep a certain budget every quarter and then shop accordingly. This is a great way to spend once in a while and get things you really want. I realised I was buying too many types of makeup I was just not using. What a waste! Why? I was watching youtube and getting obsessed with wanting to follow bloggers and get their views on how the products are and how they look. The most important thing to keep in mind was that I looked at their drawers and cases of makeup and thought if I didnt have 50 shades of lipsticks and glosses god forbid, I would apparently run out of it. Totally wrong. I ended up with too much stuff. So now I just dont bother with shopping. When my lipstick is reaching the end I look to pick up a new one. Though I do have collections they are lesser than before. 


DESIGNER OBSESSION


This is probably the most controversial point for me. Firstly, I do enjoy high end designer items. I am not gonna lie. I will occasionally get something really expensive and then it would get really satisfying for sometime. But if you spend too much money on the hem it will never be enough. So balance it out. You dont need to wear a Louis vuitton bag, Jimmy Choo heels, with a gucci dress and burberry jacket with some cartier jewelry to get the great look or make you feel important. Frankly, I find that really ridiculous. Its always good to mix the high end with your street style fashion. The H&M, Zara's, are just as good. Mix it up with a high end bag or accessory. As long as it makes you feel good and you are not spending more than you should. You should be good to go..




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Wednesday, November 15, 2017

GETTING A FRESH START

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

GETTING A FRESH START




Every year I try to start with a new resolution. Now I know this sounds pretty lame and redundant but still new goals mean new motivation. If you don’t take the time to work on your issues and what you want to achieve in your life you will find yourself looking through your albums or your years going by without much difference. Does it help to get focus? Yes. Do new goals help you get some direction. Yes. Okay, now I feel its getting a little annoying so lets just jump right to some of the things I have added to plans for the upcoming new year.



RESTART THE MIND

I know this sounds like a very strange headline right. What is restart the mind mean? Well my definition was the ability to get my thoughts and refocus them. I attended a Franklin Covey conference and it really got me back to my training days. Some of the best things about training I feel is that it reconnects you and makes you focus on what matters rather than anything else. I would say that the most important things that we look at is the ability to work with the people and learn from them. So it has got me thinking to reprioritize some of my focus points and make sure that I have got what I need to achieve rather than worry about things that I have focused on for too long.



YOGA

This is one of the best things I have actually had in my life. Meditation especially was amazing and in Sweden it was one of my favorite things. It has gotten busy but there are no excuses. Atleast take out 20 mins in a day to do a routine and I will keep a tracker and reminder daily to ensure that I do my Yoga until it becomes a habit like it used to be. The most important thing I feel with yoga is a sense of purpose and relaxation. That is something I definitely miss a lot of now. I am very hyperactive person. People see my calm exterior and think I dont get frazzled. Its actually yoga and my soul books that have given me the center and focus in life. 




 DETOX DIET

This upcoming year will have a lot more fruits and veggies in my diet. I am a totally big eater, which most people don’t believe. (Unless you have seen me binge on my favorite food and you probably will have your mouth drop in shock) So anyways, back to this. I have started green juices. Something of a habit from Sweden but besides that I have added carrot juice and salad everyday. Indians don’t really believe in salad, it looks like grass or something that we shouldn’t be eating. So basically I went ahead and started this. But i need to be more consistent. The key to good health and looking and feeling good is definitely the diet and I want to ensure I am getting enough nutrients in my system to be able to make it look good as well. I don’t want too much of stuff which is what I have been eating very unhealthy. Esp with my travel I tend to eat a lot outside and not necessary have like a balance diet which isn’t good. So a routine is a must.



HOLIDAY RETREAT

It is so important to get away. Going on a vacation—or more specifically, a retreat—can help you to leave the mayhem of the day-to-day behind so that you can reconnect with yourself and what really matters to you. As much as I can, I try to make sure to take a break every few months. A few days at a retreat can help you to clear your mind and gain new perspective. With my crazy lifestyle and work and managing all that we do, I make it a point that as a family we get away. It could be a short holiday, or just the weekend in a nearby place or catch up with people and get on the road. Whatever that might be, just disconnect. If you prefer camping then go ahead, fishing...whatever calms you. A holiday might literally also just be taking a day off and going to the SPA! Whatever your definition of a holiday might be make sure that you take time to do that!




ORGANIZE MY CLOSET
Recently, I did a lot of shopping in Europe and I came back t a chaos filled closet. Totally madness. No space because there is no organization in my closet. There is just too much stuff. So though I have donated stuff but I wanna make sure that I prioritize my wardrobe. Something that I haven’t worn beyond 2 years at least is out or  re-evaluate. Shopping is the fun part, then trying to make sure your closet is in order is the other fun part! Lol. So I try to keep one day on my weekend just to make sure all is in order. Else on a monday morning we all are frantically looking for stuff around our house and going insane finding things and trying to figure where it all is. So a organized closet also makes you feel clear in your head. That is what I have always seen classically work for me. When my closet is organized it relaxes me so much and I find myself so peaceful and rested. 


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Monday, November 6, 2017

TRAVEL TIPS

Monday, November 6, 2017

TRAVEL TIPS



I had the opportunity recently to spend sometime in my favorite places in Europe. Sweden. One of the most beautiful places with equally lovely people. On our way back we decided to see some other cities as well. So with all the travel I thought it would be a great way to share my travel tips. The most challenging part of travelling is when you shop and then try to fit everything in 3 suitcases. We had some 10 bags of shopping and how to now fit everything in those suitcases. So expecting my shopping these are few things I did. 


PACK LIGHT

Make sure that you have the most essential clothes that you would need for that holiday. So lets say its 10 days, would you need how many shirts or pants/dresses overall? What can you do without. Look at your wardrobe and identify what exactly you want to carry with you. I have often times made the mistake of packing too much. Now when I go to holidays I know I will anyway shop, so what is the most probable things I will buy and can wear there rather than carry it. Think it through. Make your packing as basic as you can and you anyway have your shopping bags to help with the rest! I had the worst experience of packing 2 huge suitcases for a 3 month overseas trip assuming just that I wont ever shop or that I would need clothes daily. My mum convinced me I needed my 7 pairs of sweaters and every shirt I could imagine and once I landed I realised what a nightmare it was to be pushing around these huge suitcases. My biggest lesson - NEVER carry heavy. u will most probably end up shopping stuff and if you even forget stuff you can always pick up something else! 
HEAVY ITEMS AT THE BOTTOM

I never realized how much heavy items don’t really help keep things as basic as we want. The toys, shoes, accessories, bags all should be ideally placed at the bottom of the suitcase, this way you can add all the light stuff between them and make more room accordingly. If you put clothes first and then the heavy items, it will cause more work for you trust me. This was one lesson my dad taught me. I had a habit of putting my shoes on the top and I never would get why it would not fit. Then he made me realise that the shoes should be at the bottom so that clothes can easily be adjusted but not the heavy ones. They would just create the issues on the top and give you a huge trouble trying to fix the zip and close the suitcase. 

FILL UP SPACES


There are various pockets in the suitcase especially between the various areas of it. Socks, light tops, shirts, anything which can be adjusted should be used to fill up these spaces. I use all the corner space coz its been always the biggest issue. So make sure to see the most of the places are like the same way. The space between your shoe and your purse. Just sneak a shirt in there, it can easily fit. Socks, tights, anything which can be adjusted can be added to these specific places too! Great space saver. 



  ESSENTIALS CHECKLIST

I always have my checklist for the travel. The clothes, toiletries, kids list, my list etc..this is a great way to not worry about just making sure that the list is taken care of. I always try to pack a day before or earlier as much as possible. After that I am relaxed and don’t need to worry about what I forgot. Eg: my straightener is one thing I always forget and I ended up with a nightmare situation of having no time while on holiday to go to parlor and my hair was such a mess!...more than usual ­čśŐ 



ACCESSORIES WHICH MATTER


Don’t take too many accessories in your suitcase. Nightmare. So carry the big bag, small bag for travel and medium size. Shoes as well try and get a little limited ones too, what kind of place are you travelling. Is it gonna be hot or cold? Beaches? I love carrying my sandals, one pair of heels or 2 depending, and match your outfits to your shoes, really important. Always make sure to see if you can have a more important ones like watches, belts, etc. 


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