Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav5/19/2011
Im here today to share food for your soul...Till now we´ve seen a lot of variation on my blog. From Fashion to Celebrity ...
Im here today to share food for your soul...Till now we´ve seen a lot of variation on my blog. From Fashion to Celebrity gossip, my travel experiences. Now, I wanna show you the spiritual aspect...This really keeps me going. Oprah introduced me to Gary Zukav, during my college days and his book, 'Seat of Soul' changed my life...Here's an excerpt from that discussion...Gary Zukav is the author of Seat of the Soul—a book that Oprah says is one of her all-time favorites. In fact, she still keeps a copy of it by her bedside. Now he wants to help you transform your relationship from what he calls "an ancient archetype" of marriage into something more—a "spiritual partnership."The traditional model of marriage, Gary says, is primarily about enhancing the survival of the participants. The couple work together toward common goals but keep emotional distance. "In a marriage, the partners often don't want to rock the boat. They want to keep things together," he says.
"The energy dynamic itself is very different in a traditional marriage than it is in a spiritual partnership," Gary says. The spiritual partnership, Gary says, does not necessarily require religious belief, but does require people who work together for "something more." "In practical terms, we're talking about getting to know yourself—getting to know what you're feeling, what you're thinking, what you're intending, what your fears are, and what your loves are," Gary says. "That is, what it means while you're walking on the earth."
In a recent Oprah.com poll, 60 percent of respondents said they believe in the idea of each person having one soul mate who has the ability to "complete" you—like Tom Cruise's line from the movie Jerry Maguire. "That's a myth and if you think about it, you'll see it for yourself," Gary says. "Only you can complete yourself. No one can complete you for you." Gary says that if your marriage is solely based on the "dynamic of romantic attachment"—that your partner has the exclusive ability to complete you—you will be disappointed when the "honeymoon phase" passes. "You begin to see, eventually, that all of your expectations that you put on someone else were unrealistic," he says.
A spiritual partnership, Gary says, strives for more than just marital vows to provide material comfort. "If you want to have the kind of relationship that your heart yearns for, you have to create it. You can't depend on somebody else creating it for you," Gary says. The key to understanding the current state of your relationship—whether it is or is not a spiritual partnership—is to look to your past. Gary suggests asking what your real intention was when you entered your relationship. "If what you're experiencing in the present is painful, you can look at what you did to create it," Gary says. "Once you make that connection, then you can begin to create differently by making different choices." Gary says your intention is what makes all the difference in what your life will be like. "What gifts do you want to give to the world? What is your potential? Why are you on the Earth?" he says. "You have a reason—fulfill it."
Why should intention matter in your life? "Someone may want to make more money so they can buy a more impressive car so they can feel better about themselves. Or, we have a friend at home who works three jobs because his wife has a potentially life-threatening illness and he doesn't have health insurance. These are vastly different intentions," Gary says. "One is based in fear—the feeling of inadequacy and the need to impress others with a car, with a home. The other is based purely in love." Are you in a spiritual partnership? The first step to finding out, Gary says, is to write down five words that describe your marriage. If you're not married, describe the relationship that you're in right now. Be as honest as you can—don't write down words that describe what you wish it would be. Ask your partner to do the same thing. "It will start a very interesting conversation," Oprah says.
According to Gary, spiritual partnerships have four main requirements—commitment, compassion, courage and conscious communication. Gary hopes that couples everywhere will stop looking outward and begin looking inward...like Oprah did back in 1989 after reading his book Seat of the Soul. "[That book] has been the single greatest force in changing the way I saw the world and saw myself," Oprah says. "For the first time in my life, I understood how my intentions were creating my reality. ... When I learned that principle of the intention, it changed the way I operated my entire life."